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Low self esteem counselling in London
Self-esteem refers to an individual's evaluation of their worth. People with low self-esteem have negative beliefs about the kind of the person they are.
Low self-esteem can lead to problems such as:
- obsessive-compulsive disorder
- eating disorders
- substance abuse
- poor body image
- feeling worthless
- people pleasing
- lack of assertiveness
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) can be an effective way to make sense of and treat low self-esteem. As a result of life experiences each of us develops core beliefs about ourselves. When these beliefs are excessively negative, e.g. "I'm not good enough", "I'm unlovable", "I'm worthless", "I'm a failure", then low self-esteem is the consequence. People develop rigid rules to cope for these negative beliefs, such as "I must control everything in my life in order to relax", "I must be liked by everyone in order to feel worthwhile", "I must succeed at everything to avoid feeling like a failure". These rules are so excessive and rigid that they are impossible to maintain. When the rules are broken the individual is back feeling the negative core beliefs.
Treatment starts with goal setting and an individualised plan to make sense of what factors are maintaining the problem. Next the client learns how to change the maintaining thoughts, beliefs and behaviours. The client learns how to create more flexible and realistic rules for living. Negative core beliefs are challenged and adapted to help clients become more self-accepting. Throughout the focus is on helping people identify, appreciate and utilise their inner strengths and qualities.
Robin Altwarg BSc (Hons) MSc MBACP MBPsS
My expertise lies in the areas of: anxiety, depression, anger, relationship difficulties, stress and low self-esteem.